IF A MAN WANTS YOU

One of my readers sent me this and I couldn't wait until next week's entry to post it. I don't know who wrote it, but I was told it was written by a man, so ladies, take a hint! (I've added my two cents along the way)

-If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay. (Ain't that the truth!)
-Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
-Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache. (To thine own self be true...that's a future topic!)
-Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be.
-Slower is better. (He will respect you more...personal experience)
-Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
-If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend. (Are you sure?...Damn, I'm always trying to save someone!)
-Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is. (Preach! LOL!)
-Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself
a year later for staying when things are not better. (In my case it was, "he'll choose me"...four months later, he didn't and I'm salty)
-The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
-Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women.
-He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?
-Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
-Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.
-If something bothers you, speak up. (I did it...it worked)
-Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later. (Don't leave a text/email/paper trail either)
-You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within.
-Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god.
-He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
-Never let a man define who you are.
-Never borrow someone else's man. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
-A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you. (Make it plain!)
-All men are NOT dogs.(But they sometimes look like them, lol...okay sorry, but damn, why am I not attracted to most of the good ones?!)
-You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two-way street.
-You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.
-You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary. (That's what my Mama said!)
-Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right. (I know that's right!)
-Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and your always readily available to him- he takes it for granted.
-Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.
-Keep him in your radar but get to know others.

Share this with other ladies..... You'll make someone SMILE, another
RETHINK her choices, and another woman PREPARE.
They say it takes a minute to find a special person (True), an hour to appreciate them (Hmmm...), a day to love them (Absolutely false) and an entire lifetime to forget them.